Sunday

It has been a strange day, weather wise.  Woke up to pouring rain, then beautiful sunshine, the pouring rain again.  Weird.  I am really missing Mumbushi this week.  Loved that little guy.  FB is getting a little weird.  We had a really nice group, then it grew.  In some ways it is a little better, in some ways, I liked the group we had.  Can you tell I don't like change too much?  I think I am just feeling too sentimental tonight.  Missing all my babies and can't wait to see them.  Mumbushi was only with us a short time, but he touched a lot of lives.  I am so sorry I never got to meet him.  Oh, Lord, the tears are starting.

A little upset tonight.  Maybe I am being a little petty, but I don't care.  My son's girlfriend's family want to throw a birthday party for him tomorrow.  This is great.  However, for his birthday, he borrowed my car to go to a wedding, and stayed there overnight.  Just came back this evening, so no time to really do anything for him.  Now they are throwing him a party.  I didn't get an invite.  I know family is really important to Greg, and they have taken him into theirs, but I am not part of that.  I know Greg loves me, but I am slowly being cut out of his life.  And, Dammit, I resent that.

I am torn, because I don't want the girlfriend, Allie, to have to choose between her parents and me.  She has a great family, and we have very little on our side. It has been Greg and I for a long time.  Maybe I am being overly sensitive, I don't know.  But I can rant here and not burden him with it.

Tomorrow is a holiday here, so I still have a day off.  Good to have before all hell breaks loose with the students next week.   Maybe the weather is getting me a little down.  More likely is that summer is over.  Labor Day is always the sign that the lazy days of summer are over and it is time to get back into the full swing of things.  This is good as it will make the time pass more quickly. 

Anyhow, have a great week, my friends.

TTFN

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Julie M said…
Your day sounds like the weather in Melbourne. They joke that in Melbourne you can have the four seasons all in one day. I am still feeling sad about Mumbushi too. I was taken by surprise when he passed away as I thought he was going to be OK. So sad though, his beloved Mum being poached, you can really understand why they just give up the ghost. I hate change Belinda and I often wonder why I am like that. Is it because I'm not terribly outgoing and hate to be out of my comfort zone. Even at the week ends I look forward to the usual routines of the week again. Unfortunately the men usually spend more time with the girls families than their own, just the way it is usually, but I don't think you are being petty. I am a little upset that you weren't included in the celebrations, seems a little uncaring of them to me. Maybe you should try and have a quiet word with Greg in some sort of round about way, wait for a good time possibly. Why don't you try to have them over and arrange some outings with them,(maybe you already do this) that may make them think about you being by yourself and include you in their plans more. It is a difficult situation I know. With me Lauren will never marry, she isn't interested in marriage and children, she is too career focused. In saying that I suppose she may change her mind, she is 31 now though. With Natalie & Robert, her parents live locally and she is close to them and has a younger sister. Her Mum is rather controlling, still tells Natalie what she should be doing etc. With Karina & Paul, because Karina doesn't have much of a family and they don't live locally I think we will have much more to do with them and any children they hopefully may have. We have done a lot financially for all our children and Karina just can't believe how much we have assisted them as she has never had any support of any kind from her family at all. That is what parents are for Ross and I believe. I trust you are feeling a little better. Julie xoxo
September 6, 2011 at 11:25 PM
Julie M said…
Belinda, I was thinking about what you said about Greg and his girl's family and I wanted to recount something that happened with Robert & Natalie when they initally started to need someone to look after Sienna a few months ago. The first few times they left her for social outings (wedding's etc) they always asked Natalie's mother and not me. Ross said to me on one accasion "I wonder who is looking after Sienna"(Rob was being best man at a mate's wedding) and I replied Natalie's mother will probably always be asked but it would be so lovely if we were some time. Ross later told me that he had just very nicely and politely mentioned to Robert at an appropriate time that Mum would love to look after Sienna some time. Ever since then it is half and half which I so appreciate. Maybe you could do the same with Greg, it is worth giving it some thought. Maybe start thinking about what will happen at Christmas time nice and early and make some plans with them before her family get in. When I look after Sienna I always go over there as I think that is better for her, she has all her familiar items around her. Nat's mum won't do that and they have to take her there. I think they appreciate my doing this for them. Just some of my thoughts Hope I haven't imposed or upset you at all. Julie xx
September 6, 2011 at 11:40 PM
Belinda said…
I was thinking that I would just mention to him that I was a little sad that this was the first time in 35 years we didn't see each other on his birthday. I will try to put together a dinner or something for both of them, but it won't be the same. And they are both so busy it is difficult to schedule. They seem to have a standing "Sunday" dinner with her parents. I don't do that. Quite frankly, I am not a great cook, I can do the basics, that's about it. Never learned how, really. But I will try to schedule something. As they say, a son is a son until he takes a wife... But he is a really good boy, all in all.

I guess the change in season was getting me down, I am over it now and I do love the fall.

It is really lovely to be able to talk with someone who understands what I mean. Thank you. Take care.
September 7, 2011 at 8:57 AM
Julie M said…
You don't have to thank me, I like talking to you and it always helps to talk things over with someone who is not close to your situation. I think that would be an excellent idea to mention missing his birthday to him just as you described, nice and diplomatic so as not to upset anyone. I expect he hasn't really given it any thought at all, men don't usually. I don't like regular weekly standing dinners. I feel that they become a chore eventually and are all a little false or fake, if you know what I mean. People I know who do this are never really close, they just bitch behind one anothers backs and I don't like that. What I do with the boys is we take it turn about. Last week end was my turn. In another 8 weeks or so (not too often) it is Robert & Natalie's turn. Everyone takes something so as not to be too much of a burden to just one. They usually only last a few hours, not too long. I would try and arrange something well in advance if they are busy and I am sure no matter what you provide they will love it. You can buy so much these days already prepared. Maybe have coffee with them for a short while somewhere close to where they work or live. The other thing I tried to do with my two girls when we were first starting out was just to spend small amounts of time with them. Nothing too planned, just dropped in for 10 minutes, bought them something small and dropped it off, that sort of thing. Went with them on a couple of occasions to things like say the local markets that they wanted to go to. Just casually said things like I haven't been there in years should have another look at that and tagged along for a little while. Now they invite me. You will be fine, you just have to start somewhere and it can be uncomfortable at times. It will work out. Lovely to chat. Julie xx
September 7, 2011 at 11:56 PM
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