A friend of over 30 years died recently. I was so angry that she hadn't told me anything of what was going on. We were good friends until just before she left for Guatamala to see her grandson being born. When she got back, she shut me out completely. Then I found out through rumor that she had died.
Well, I found out tonight the reason she cut me off. She had been dealing with heart problems for a couple of years now. I am guessing when she got back from Guatamala, it was discovered she had kidney problems also. She left for Guatamala just after I had my psycho neighbor arrested. Apparently, when she got back, she confided in a mutual friend that we hadn't paid enough attention to her when she was so fragile. She decided she couldn't deal with my drama any more so cut me off completely, even though at that time it was over. So, my neighbor threatening to kill me and terrorizing me for months was supposed to be flipped off so we could gather around her and say "oh, poor you." Not surprising, really. She always thought she was the centre of the universe. This sounds awful, but she really was my friend for a long time and I always put up with it in the past. But, in retrospect, whenever I came upon a difficult time, she always withdrew from me. I am sorry she died, she was quite alone at the time having pushed everyone away, even her kids. At least I understand it now.
I hope she finds the peace she needs now. RIP Cheryl.
Well, I found out tonight the reason she cut me off. She had been dealing with heart problems for a couple of years now. I am guessing when she got back from Guatamala, it was discovered she had kidney problems also. She left for Guatamala just after I had my psycho neighbor arrested. Apparently, when she got back, she confided in a mutual friend that we hadn't paid enough attention to her when she was so fragile. She decided she couldn't deal with my drama any more so cut me off completely, even though at that time it was over. So, my neighbor threatening to kill me and terrorizing me for months was supposed to be flipped off so we could gather around her and say "oh, poor you." Not surprising, really. She always thought she was the centre of the universe. This sounds awful, but she really was my friend for a long time and I always put up with it in the past. But, in retrospect, whenever I came upon a difficult time, she always withdrew from me. I am sorry she died, she was quite alone at the time having pushed everyone away, even her kids. At least I understand it now.
I hope she finds the peace she needs now. RIP Cheryl.
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